Today is the 7th! A day I acknowledge the
survival of a “special” friendship. I’ve often asked God to change me from
keeping people at a distance and allow me to have a true friend. Well, I
thought my prayers had been answered but my feelings got ahead of themselves. Wholeheartedly,
I want to trust God in this but I don’t understand what my heavenly Father is
doing and why my heart aches.
Here’s our story : http://loveandnotebooks.blogspot.com/
You see, after spending time talking to someone of the opposite sex every day for
months I started to think it was going somewhere. But, the truth is he kept me around for comfort,
to fill the void of his ex. I started to
believe I was a complete joke. He kept
me around just to keep him company because he no longer had her to cling to.
Once I realized what was going on , I bashed her. Yeah, horrible! I was like, “
She looks like a dragon , I’m a major UPGRADE.”
You know those awful things girls say when they are jealous. The truth
is she’s beautiful and talented. She’s just as fearfully and wonderfully made
as I am and I need to get over myself. It just hurts
to feel this way …for nothing.
BUT it got me to
thinking…
Being a Sola (single woman) is a
time where one should get to know herself. A Sola should understand what they want and
like and be comfortable within herself.
A Sola does not need a man to bring out the best in her, she is already
the best. Instead of searching for
someone to complete her, she should use her singleness to better herself. You cannot benefit from a relationship unless
you know who you are. So many people are searching for love but fail to love
themselves and learning to love yourself is a lesson that is taught by your
Creator. Surrender to God because He can
show you how to love you but you must trust Him. Words are not enough. Spend time with him,
allow Him to stroke your ego with compliments, allow him to bathe you in His
admiration. Accepting God’s love is one
of the greatest things one can do. We are not worthy of His grace and mercy but
yet He continues to bless us because He
loves us. Often times , I just cry
thinking about how unworthy I am of God’s grace.
With that being said I asked myself,
“What do I need a man for?” I wanted
someone to admire me, hold me, comfort me, be there for me if I need anything,
surprise me, love me, care for me. I wanted a companion a friend. I soon
realized that I could do all of that on my own. The date nights, surprises,
adventures I could do that on my own and the person I needed to get closest too
was the one who had never left my side,God. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying
that we don’t need companionship and that we should all be alone with God. I’m
saying that we should allow God to write our love story. God desires a
relationship with us and if you want to have a Great Relationship, why not
learn from the creator of relationships.
As a Sola
you are the Queen of Kings. No matter
how men have treated you in the past, sit firmly on your throne. Never lower
your standards or degrade other women. We must empower and uplift each other because
there are plenty of things in the world created to tear us down. When men hurt you, don’t dwell on it too long
allow God to mend your broken heart and forgive. Step into God’s Will and
accept what he has for you because it is nothing short of greatness. God loves
you and you are truly a queen.
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